5 Ways to Spend Your First Valentine’s Day After a Breakup
Your first Valentine’s Day post-breakup can feel like SHIT. It’s like a joke ass day, celebrating love, everyone’s in love, and you just got your heart ripped out of you. So how do you make the best out of this day, despite your poor heart being in intensive care. Well to start, shifting your attention. I LOVEEEEE making people feel empowered. IT’s my superpower. SO what I’m proposing is that instead of focusing on what’s missing, why not reclaim it as a day of self-care, connection, and new traditions?
Here are five meaningful ways to spend Valentine’s Day in a way that prioritizes you.
1. Have a Self-Love Date
Who says you need a partner to enjoy a special date? Turn this Valentine’s Day into a celebration of you.
Treat yourself to your favorite meal (order in or go to that fancy restaurant).
Indulge in a spa day—whether at home or at an actual spa.
Buy yourself flowers, chocolates, or something you've been wanting.
Take yourself to a movie, museum, or bookstore—anything that feels good for you.
Spending quality time alone doesn’t mean loneliness; it means honoring yourself.
2. Host a "Galentine’s" (or Palentine’s) Gathering
Love isn’t just about romantic relationships—it’s also about friendship and community. Gather your closest friends and celebrate the people who have been there for you.
Ideas for a fun night:
A movie marathon (rom-coms, anti-Valentine’s movies, or nostalgic favorites).
A game night with snacks and laughter.
A themed dinner party—potluck style or cooking together.
A DIY spa night with face masks, candles, and self-care rituals.
Surrounding yourself with good company can remind you that love is all around.
3. Do a Social Media Detox
Scrolling through happy couple photos? Not the best move if you’re healing. Give yourself permission to take a break from social media, even if just for the day.
Instead, use that time to:
Read a book that uplifts or inspires you.
Journal your thoughts, feelings, or future goals.
Get outside—take a walk, hike, or explore a new part of town.
Listen to music or a podcast that makes you feel good.
Protect your peace by curating what you consume.
4. Create a New Tradition
If past Valentine’s Days were about a relationship, redefine what this day means for you. Start a new tradition that you can look forward to each year.
Take a solo trip or plan a future getaway.
Start a yearly “love letter to self,” reflecting on your growth.
Volunteer or do an act of kindness—love is about giving, too.
Begin a creative project—painting, writing, or trying something new.
Your new tradition can be anything that makes you feel empowered and excited.
5. Focus on the Future, Not the Past
Instead of dwelling on what was, shift your mindset toward what’s ahead. Use Valentine’s Day as a day of intention setting.
Write down what you want in future relationships (romantic or otherwise).
Reflect on the lessons you’ve learned and how they’ll shape your future.
Make a vision board for the life you want to create.
Take the first step toward a new goal—sign up for a class, plan a trip, or try something outside your comfort zone.
Your past relationship is just one chapter—there’s so much more ahead.
Final Thoughts
Valentine’s Day after a breakup can feel bittersweet, but it doesn’t have to be painful. Whether you’re spending the day alone, with friends, or doing something new, the key is to focus on you. This isn’t just a day about love—it’s about self-worth, growth, and creating a life that makes you happy.
So, how will you celebrate yourself this year? 💕
If you’re feeling like it’s impossible to celebrate yourself, or are in need of loving support through your breakup (and you live in California)… You are in Luck! Because I am a specialist in this area. Schedule your free call with me to get you started!
