Breakup Blues? Here’s What to Do When You Have Zero Hobbies
So, your relationship ended, and now you’re sitting there thinking, Wait… what do I even do for fun? Maybe your ex was your built-in weekend plan, your go-to binge-watching buddy, or the person who dragged you to things you “totally weren’t into” (but low-key kind of enjoyed). And now? Crickets.
First of all, don’t panic. You’re not alone in this existential crisis. Many people go through a breakup only to realize they have zero hobbies outside of scrolling TikTok and rewatching their comfort show for the 37th time. The good news? This is actually an opportunity—yes, I said opportunity—to rediscover yourself. And you don’t even have to take up knitting (unless you want to).
Why Does a Breakup Make You Feel So Lost?
Relationships have a sneaky way of absorbing our time, interests, and even personality traits (be honest, did you really love hiking, or did you just love them?). When it ends, it’s like getting fired from a job you didn’t even realize you had—suddenly, you have all this free time and no idea what to do with it.
But instead of seeing this as a void to fill with sad playlists and doom-scrolling, let’s flip the script. You now have the chance to build a life that’s 100% yours.
How to Find a Hobby (Even if You Think You Have None)
If your current list of hobbies includes “eating snacks” and “thinking about going to the gym,” don’t worry—there’s hope.
1. Follow Your Curiosity (Not Your Ex’s Instagram)
What have you always wanted to try but never did? Maybe you secretly wanted to get into photography, pottery, or salsa dancing but never made the time. Now’s your chance. Start small, be open-minded, and remember: it doesn’t have to be a lifelong commitment—just a fun experiment.
2. The 30-Day Hobby Challenge
If decision-making isn’t your strong suit (which, let’s be honest, is why you stayed in that situationship for so long), commit to trying something new for just 30 days. No pressure, no perfection—just giving it a shot. Worst case? You realize rock climbing is not your thing. Best case? You find something you actually love.
3. Get Social (But in a Fun Way, Not a Forced Networking Event Way)
Joining a group or class is an easy way to make hobbies feel less awkward. Try a beginner’s yoga class, a local trivia night, or a book club where you may or may not actually read the book (we don’t judge). Bonus: You might even make new friends who don’t remind you of your ex.
4. Move Your Body (Even if It's Just a Vibe Check at the Gym)
Exercise isn’t just about getting fit—it’s also an instant mood booster. Try something that feels fun, like dance classes, boxing (very therapeutic post-breakup, just saying), or hiking. And no, walking to the fridge doesn’t count (but we respect the effort).
5. Tap Into Your Creative Side (No, You Don’t Have to Be Picasso)
Art, music, journaling—any kind of creative expression can be a great way to process emotions and, honestly, just kill time in a productive way. Doodle, write bad poetry, take chaotic film photos—just have fun with it.
6. Touch Some Grass (Literally)
Getting outside—even if it’s just walking around your neighborhood—does wonders for your mood. If you’re feeling ambitious, try hiking, gardening, or even just sitting on a park bench and dramatically staring into the distance like the main character you are.
You Don’t Have to “Find Yourself” Overnight
Let’s be real—this whole “finding a hobby” thing isn’t about becoming a master chef or an Olympic athlete overnight. It’s about giving yourself permission to explore, play, and enjoy life again. And hey, if all else fails, at least you tried something new (and got out of bed, which is a win).
So, what’s one new thing you’re willing to try this week? And no, making a “starter hobby” Pinterest board doesn’t count (but it’s a solid first step).
Make it stand out
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