The 6 Breakup Coping Styles: Which One Are You?

Breakups are like bad Wi-Fi—you keep trying to reconnect, even though you know you really shouldn’t. And let’s be honest, everyone handles heartbreak very differently. Some hit the gym like it’s an Olympic sport, while others disappear into a blanket cocoon and rewatch their ex’s Instagram stories on a burner account.

So, which one are you? Let’s find out.

1. The Avoider 🏃💨

If ghosting your feelings were a sport, you’d have a gold medal. Instead of dealing with the breakup, you keep yourself extremely busy—picking up extra shifts, starting a new hobby, and pretending your ex never existed. Talking about it? Nope. Feeling emotions? Double nope.

🔹 Signature Moves: Filling your calendar with social plans, keeping conversations strictly surface-level, and mastering the phrase, “I’m totally fine.”
🔹 Biggest Strength: Can function in society without a breakdown.
🔹 Biggest Weakness: Those feelings? Yeah, they don’t just disappear. They’re coming for you… eventually.

2. The Rebounder 💃🔥

Your motto? “The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.” You treat heartbreak like a minor inconvenience that can be solved with some good old-fashioned flirting. Whether it’s a full dating app revival or a casual situationship, you keep things moving so you don’t have to sit with the pain.

🔹 Signature Moves: Swiping right immediately, going on spontaneous dates, and DM’ing an ex from two relationships ago.
🔹 Biggest Strength: Moves on fast, keeps things fun.
🔹 Biggest Weakness: Might not actually process the breakup before jumping into something new.

3. The Overanalyzer 🤯🔍

Your breakup is now a true crime investigation—and you are the detective. You replay every conversation, scrutinize old texts like they hold the secrets of the universe, and deep-dive into breakup psychology TikTok. You’re not just heartbroken—you’re searching for answers.

🔹 Signature Moves: Asking friends, “Do you think they ever loved me?” at least 47 times, re-reading texts from three years ago, and Googling “signs my ex regrets breaking up.”
🔹 Biggest Strength: Gains deep insights and might actually learn from the relationship.
🔹 Biggest Weakness: Risks getting stuck in analysis mode instead of moving forward.

4. The Glow-Up Guru ✨

Oh, you wanna leave me? That’s fine. I’ll just become the most successful, attractive, thriving version of myself you’ve ever seen. You turn your heartbreak into motivation—new fitness routine, new wardrobe, new everything. This isn’t just a glow-up; it’s a revenge arc.

🔹 Signature Moves: Gym memberships, hair transformations, starting a new business, and casually “accidentally” running into your ex looking amazing.
🔹 Biggest Strength: Focuses on self-improvement and confidence.
🔹 Biggest Weakness: Might use self-improvement as a distraction instead of actually healing.

5. The Hermit 🧦

Why face the world when you can hibernate? The Hermit disappears from society, cancels plans, and watches sad movies on a loop while wearing the same hoodie for a concerning amount of time. They’re not avoiding their feelings—they’re drowning in them.

🔹 Signature Moves: Blanket cocooning, crying to sad playlists, eating comfort food, and aggressively rejecting all social invitations.
🔹 Biggest Strength: Actually processes emotions instead of running from them.
🔹 Biggest Weakness: Might need a friend to physically drag them out of their house after week three.

6. The Healer 🧘‍♀️💖

You, my friend, are the enlightened one. Instead of rebounding, avoiding, or spiraling into a 3 AM Google search hole, you face your feelings head-on. You reflect, journal, go to therapy, and allow yourself to grieve without getting stuck. You’re not just moving on—you’re growing.

🔹 Signature Moves: Journaling, meditating, going to therapy, setting boundaries, and genuinely healing.
🔹 Biggest Strength: Actually comes out of the breakup stronger.
🔹 Biggest Weakness: Healing takes time, and patience isn’t always fun.

So… Which One Are You?

Are you dodging emotions like The Avoider? Swiping through the pain like The Rebounder? Overanalyzing every blink your ex ever made? Or are you the rare Healer, actually processing things like a healthy human?

No matter your breakup style, you don’t have to go through it alone. If you're ready to process your breakup without getting stuck in the cycle, let’s talk. Book a free 15-minute consultation call and take the first step toward healing.

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Because you deserve to move forward with clarity, confidence, and zero accidental texts to your ex. 😉💔